This is a sponsored conversation, our Infertility Journey from Mums the Word Network and The Stork OTC.
This has been one of the hardest posts for me to write, but I am hopeful that someone reading this will be able to relate and know they are not alone. My mom recently shared with me that her best friend struggled for a decade to have a child and she only shared the details with her when they were going through the process of adopting their daughter. I love that our generation is so open and honest about their journey to parenthood.
Our Journey for our First Child
When my husband and I started talking about starting a family I immediately told my best friend. We decided we would have our babies at the same time. Looking back I now realize how crazy we were that we thought we could control that. We were both so blessed. My best friend got pregnant the first month and I got pregnant with our daughter the 2nd month we tried. Being pregnant with your best friend is the coolest experience. When our babies were born we were literally in hospital rooms next to each other.
Our birth stories were very different both with complications, mine included B being born a month early and two weeks in the NICU. So while our rooms were next to each other we stayed in a hospital room while our daughter was down the hall in the NICU. In the end we both ended up with healthy babies who were just 8 days apart from each other. Some of my best memories are sitting on her bed both trying to breast feed. Having our girls so close in age was the best gift for not only us, but for our girls.
Our Infertility Journey to a 2nd Child
I remember talking to friends who had been trying for months some even years and one friend's story with infertility spans over a decade. I knew just how blessed we were that we did not have any trouble. So when my best friend and I both decided it was time to start trying for the 2nd I had a feeling that our kids may not be just a week apart, but I never knew that they would be years apart.
Her second, a son just celebrated his first birthday a couple of months ago. He is adorable and such a blessing. But for me he is also a very visible reminder of a painful miscarriage and the loss of a child who would now be celebrating his/her first birthday. We decided to take a break from "trying" for the holidays because I was tired of it taking over our lives. The entire month had become about taking medicine, tracking our fertility and then looking for signs of being pregnant only to end up in tears when I was not pregnant. Add to this a breast cancer scare
I have lost count of the number of comments from people asking do you want more children or you have only one or even worse being an only child is the worst thing, you must have more. My standard answer is "We would love more children, God willing. I am generally holding back tears. At a recent baby shower (note to self, I need to remember to politely RSVP no to all future baby showers) an older women asked if I wanted more and I gave her my standard answer. She came back with "Your poor daughter, it is not fair to make her an only child." I had to excuse to myself to the restroom to collect myself. I hope that people are ignorant like I was and think that infertility issues don't happen with second children.
We are at the part of our journey were by OB has sent us to the specialist, I cannot bring myself to even make the appointment so when the opportunity to work with The Stork OTC I was excited to share my story because I am sure I am not alone. Sometimes with struggles with infertility you can feel all alone.
About The Stork OTC
The Stork OTC involves no drugs, which is one of the reasons I was so excited to try it. It is an over the counter devices that has been cleared by the FDA to assist your chances of becoming pregnant. The device allows the sperm to quickly bypass the vaginal tract and places the it as close as possible to the opening of the cervix, right where it needs to be to swim up through.
I have my fingers and toes crossed that I will be able to share a success story with you next year! I would love to hear about your journey to parenthood as well. Thank you in advance for your support!
Carrie @ourpotluckfamily says
Thank you for sharing your story - I have so many friends who have gone through all different types of fertility treatments. I wish you guys the absolute best!!
Thank you so much Carrie. Hard to really put it all out there. Hoping 2018 is our year!
Hi. Have you heard about the fertility statues? Ancient history states that if you touch one you become pregnant.
It makes a woman or man fertil.
I happen to have one that I'm selling.
If you would be interested in buying it let me know. You would have to place it in your room. And touch it daily
Until you get pregnant.
I can touch it bc I'm 55 and past the fertil age. But my sons won't even go near it.
Awww such a sweet post. Thank you for sharing your story! I'm rooting for ya!
Thank you. Praying 2018 is our year!!!
Wishing you all the best, Cristy!
Thank you. Praying 2018 is our year!
Thanks you for sharing your story! Elle was an only child for 6 years before she got two brothers back to back! It wasn’t our plan but I’ve learned over the years that God doesn’t like plans! Wishing you a wonderful Christmas and all the best for 2018!
Thank you. And you know Elle is who I want to B to be when she grows up.
Much success to you, Christy! I know how difficult of the journey this is! My husband and I have been together for 20 years before we got pregnant. We are both singletons and so wanted to have several kids, but this was not in the plans. Several surgeries, IVFs, IUIs, our last month trying before going for adoption - I got pregnant!!! Was not an easy pregnancy, but I got my beautiful, healthy, sweet boy in the end! 14 years later - I'm the Happiest Mom! I'm very Grateful to God to experience Motherhood!
Thank you so much for sharing. It is amazing what we do to have a family. So happy you have a happy ending.
Heather McMechan says
Thanks for sharing your journey. It's not easy what you are going through. I've been there and know the feeling. If you need someone to talk to, just call.
Thank you so much Heather. I did not realize that. I appreciate your support
Cristy, I am not familiar with your particular situations but what I believe worked for me was 1000 ml of ubiquinol and a lot of fresh royal jelly for 3-4 months daily. We had been trying for a while and I had looked into ivf but did an iui, similar to stork, and ended up twins. Happiest of holidays and your little girl is beautiful (and people should keep their kid comments to themselves)
I will look into that. Thank you for the recommendation! Merry Christmas to you. And I agree people should have a filter.
What an informative post! That's so wonderful and brave of you to share. I wish people weren't so ignorant on how to treat others and their comments about only children. We never know what someone else is going through. 2018 will be your year! I follow you on Instagram and am praying for a pregnancy announcement for you this year! ?
Your comment made my day! Thank you for your praying. I am praying for a pregnancy announcement too!