This is a sponsored conversation, our Infertility Journey from Mums the Word Network and The Stork OTC.
This has been one of the hardest posts for me to write, but I am hopeful that someone reading this will be able to relate and know they are not alone. My mom recently shared with me that her best friend struggled for a decade to have a child and she only shared the details with her when they were going through the process of adopting their daughter. I love that our generation is so open and honest about their journey to parenthood.
Our Journey for our First Child
When my husband and I started talking about starting a family I immediately told my best friend. We decided we would have our babies at the same time. Looking back I now realize how crazy we were that we thought we could control that. We were both so blessed. My best friend got pregnant the first month and I got pregnant with our daughter the 2nd month we tried. Being pregnant with your best friend is the coolest experience. When our babies were born we were literally in hospital rooms next to each other.
Our birth stories were very different both with complications, mine included B being born a month early and two weeks in the NICU. So while our rooms were next to each other we stayed in a hospital room while our daughter was down the hall in the NICU. In the end we both ended up with healthy babies who were just 8 days apart from each other. Some of my best memories are sitting on her bed both trying to breast feed. Having our girls so close in age was the best gift for not only us, but for our girls.
Our Infertility Journey to a 2nd Child
I remember talking to friends who had been trying for months some even years and one friend’s story with infertility spans over a decade. I knew just how blessed we were that we did not have any trouble. So when my best friend and I both decided it was time to start trying for the 2nd I had a feeling that our kids may not be just a week apart, but I never knew that they would be years apart.
Her second, a son just celebrated his first birthday a couple of months ago. He is adorable and such a blessing. But for me he is also a very visible reminder of a painful miscarriage and the loss of a child who would now be celebrating his/her first birthday. We decided to take a break from “trying” for the holidays because I was tired of it taking over our lives. The entire month had become about taking medicine, tracking our fertility and then looking for signs of being pregnant only to end up in tears when I was not pregnant. Add to this a breast cancer scare
I have lost count of the number of comments from people asking do you want more children or you have only one or even worse being an only child is the worst thing, you must have more. My standard answer is “We would love more children, God willing. I am generally holding back tears. At a recent baby shower (note to self, I need to remember to politely RSVP no to all future baby showers) an older women asked if I wanted more and I gave her my standard answer. She came back with “Your poor daughter, it is not fair to make her an only child.” I had to excuse to myself to the restroom to collect myself. I hope that people are ignorant like I was and think that infertility issues don’t happen with second children.
We are at the part of our journey were by OB has sent us to the specialist, I cannot bring myself to even make the appointment so when the opportunity to work with The Stork OTC I was excited to share my story because I am sure I am not alone. Sometimes with struggles with infertility you can feel all alone.
About The Stork OTC
The Stork OTC involves no drugs, which is one of the reasons I was so excited to try it. It is an over the counter devices that has been cleared by the FDA to assist your chances of becoming pregnant. The device allows the sperm to quickly bypass the vaginal tract and places the it as close as possible to the opening of the cervix, right where it needs to be to swim up through.
I have my fingers and toes crossed that I will be able to share a success story with you next year! I would love to hear about your journey to parenthood as well. Thank you in advance for your support!